FROM LEFT: Me at my wedding to Chris eight years ago in an Oscar de la Renta wedding dress, which I still pull out to admire now and then; my sister Andrea (also eight years ago) in the elegant yet simple Halston gown she wore to marry Alex Douzet.

That's the Way Love Goes

Like most little girls, I had many visions of my wedding day—unsolicited reveries that seem to be part of the immature female DNA. I pictured my nuptials in the fall, in the country, with blood-red roses, pear-tree branches, magnolia leaves, soft white tulle and mellow wedding bells (“What a world of happiness their harmony foretells!” as Edgar Allan Poe wrote in The Bells). With lots of planning that did not appear in that dream, and in an age when people still made phone calls, I was able to get the actual day to come relatively close to my fantasy.

With the passage of time, one thing remains a tradition: the long and detailed art of wedding planning. In creating our first wedding issue, we asked Colin Cowie, “u?ber” wedding authority, to help us assemble the best recommendations for large or small New York weddings. Most trends are in one year and out the other, but our advice is timeless—from venues and gowns to flowers and cakes. I even offer some of the choices I made for my own wedding.

It’s also a New Year, and who better to kick it off than one of the music world’s most fascinating people—and our cover star—Janet Jackson. Jackson opens up about many things, including a new album, a new film and a new lease on life. I even got a New Year’s resolution out of her (see “In Control”), which made me rethink my own. Because there are just too many areas of self-improvement to share, suffice it to say that I’m regarding the coming year as yet another chance to become a better woman.

Happy New Year!


A Few Favorites
For the perfect white wedding (with a hint of green), here are my picks for the best that NYC has to offer.

Bridal jewelry gift: White-gold Karma 7.29-carat rose-cut diamond teardrop earrings by Shawn Warren ($5,175)—perfect for the big day. Call 212-724-5944 or visit

Eventeur: Bronson Van Wyck makes magic (price on request). 224 W. 30th St., 13th floor, 212-675-8601;

Floral designer: Lilee Fell designs a midsummer’s night dream (bouquets from $150; centerpieces from $175). P.O. Box 227, Southampton, 631-456-3926;

Guide: Town & Country the Bridesmaid’s Companion: The Complete Guide to Attending the Bride by Valerie Berrios (Hearst Books) is the latest and greatest resource for every detail and duty of the bridesmaids and beyond. Bookstores citywide

Honeymoon location: Four Seasons Costa Rica at Peninsula Papagayo is a mellow surf spot for him with all the spa amenities for her (from about $395 per night, varying seasonally). Guanacaste, Costa Rica, 800-819-5053;

Rehearsal dinner: Alain Ducasse’s Adour in The St. Regis New York starts a wedding weekend out in delectable style—the restaurant uses farm-fresh foods from Basis Farm to Chef (from $25,000 for an evening rental). 2 E. 55th St., 212-710-2277;

Venue: The rooftop at The St. Regis New York is by far one of the most glam, and out-of-town guests can stay at the hotel (from $300 - $400 per night, per person). 2 E. 55th St., 212-753-4000;

Wedding dress designer: Oscar de la Renta— the best designer, bar none (from $6,490). Bergdorf Goodman, 754 Fifth Ave., 212-753-7300;

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